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Susanne McCrea

Lilith Art of Rebellion Coaching

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your every day encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

1/

Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

2/

Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

3/

Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

4/

Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

5/

Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

6/

Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lilith and the Art of Rebellion

A six step program to fearlessness

 

Are you justifiably angry and alternately depressed about the state of the world? Patriarchy, misogyny, exploitation of people and the planet are intolerable to the Lilith archetype. Is conflict entering into your everyday encounters?

 

Have you tried to distance yourself from your privilege instead of using it to help others?

 

Do you find yourself romantically attracted to “rebels without a cause?” Does sexual chemistry keep you in otherwise conflicted or unsatisfying relationships?

 

Do you find it hard to work with or for people who don't share your values? Find yourself speaking up even when it might cost you your job, or the support of other co-workers?

 

Is the joy in life missing or fleeting because you are preoccupied with personal and altruistic problems?

 

Do you find yourself attracted to spiritual practises that don't come from your own culture, but want to avoid being expropriative.

 

These are the challenges of the Lilith archetype.

 

This program is designed to bring out the strengths of your Lilith archetype personality and to develop positive and fearless ways of accessing and acting on your nature and impulses. Letting these programs we carry run from unconscious, or habitual, behaviours is exhausting, disheartening and bound to create conflict and result in poor decision making. Once you see the patterns they lose their power over you and can be released. Learn to operate from an understanding of how you got here and how you can break through and use your natural characteristics to stand in power and strength.

 

So you can:

 

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Use your anger to fuel actions that will make change, rather than bring it into every encounter and waste it, while depleting your own energy uselessly.

 

 

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Allow yourself to have the resources you need to support your life and be the basis for helping anyone else.

 

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Connect with a partner who is truly aligned with your beliefs and fits in with your tribe, rather than a misfit who sucks up your time and takes energy away from your real objectives in life. Discover how to have passion and harmony at the same time.

 

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Find joy in life, despite the problems in the world and remember why you wanted to save it in the first place. Become a realistic optimist and allow your work to be a living legacy.

 

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Have the right vehicle for earning income and furthering your life's work. Be financially responsible and have work that's in keeping with your values.

 

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Embrace your spirituality and be culturally respectful. Learn the difference between affinity and expropriation.

 

 

 

Lilith was the first wife of Adam; the one who would obey. She, who was made of the same earth of Adam (not the rib of the first man, like Eve) refused to be subservient. And for her insistence on equality she was forced to flee the garden, pursued and demonized. She reacted by saying she was born to be a demon, anyway.

 

How I resonate with her re-writing of her own story. I was called a witch so many times that I eventually took the name, myself, to take the sting out of it and claim my power. Demonized. Witch was a word used to kill my ancestors; the wise women and medics of that time in Europe. This is one way in which the Lilith archetype lives in me. When I dedicated myself to a craft name, nearly 30 years ago, I chose Lilith to stand for my rebellion against convention and the place of women in our culture; the subjugation of nature following directly from the disrespect and fear of a woman's life giving power.

 

As a freedom fighter, I sometimes now don't want to give any words to what I am. I find them all limiting, but as a writer and communicator, I continue to try to express myself in words.

 

Lilith is alive in the woman who does not like to be contained; restrained; classified and dismissed as angry, intimidating, too weird or too much. She repels weak and conventional people (except as a novelty) and attracts the rebels. She often takes on rebels without a cause, mistaking them for her real counterpart.

 

Anger and the Activist Mindset

 

You are resonating with Lilith if you are justifiably angry about patriarchy, misogyny, greed, the destruction of nature and inequality. The Lilith program can trigger us so much that we become angry with everything and everyone and unleash our fury all around us. We are told we are over reacting, over simplifying and we should calm down. But what we really need to do is harness and focus our anger to make real change. When we learn to do that we can find the calm in the storm within us and remember what we are working to preserve or create.

 

 

Step 1

 

In this program you will learn to meet people where they are; every encounter does not need to start at a 10 out of 10 on the calling out scale. Nor does real change happen when we waste our energy on the people who are not open to new perspectives.

 

Cost of staying stuck

 

Unresolved anger can turn to it's sister depression/anxiety and eventually will effect our health, relationships and income negatively.

 

 

Distancing from your Privilege

 

Lilith is in action in women who not only recognize their privilege, but actively try to run from it. We reject family money, family connections, comfortable living, material possessions, class and opportunities we don't feel we've earned.

 

We see the inequities of life in the “accident” of birth and race. We feel them acutely. We don't want anything we don't earn and we often reject even that; telling the universe we only want enough to get buy.

 

Step 2

 

We will work to determine what supports we really need for out lives and where our privilege could actually be of service to others. We can't shed it. It comes with us in our skin colour (if we're white), and in our manner of speaking if we're educated or come from an educated family. We will be treated differently in the world even if we try not to be.

We can use our privilege to be observers at a protest by Indigenous activists. We can show up with a camera and make it a safer place. We can have a nice home and offer travelling speakers, or workshop facilitators a respite and a place to stay. We can use our connection to bring voices into places they would not otherwise be heard. Meantime, find your tribe and learn to envision and embody, or deepen your practise of, a new way of life.

 

 

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Guilt

 

 

We don't have to take on values that don't resonate with us, but we don't have to turn our guilt into judgement and we can't escape privilege entirely, either. We can use what we have to improve life for others. We don't need to alienate people in our lives before giving them a real opportunity to see the world as we've seen it. Nor do we benefit from condemning people because they haven't rejected the only life they know. Save it for the real bad guys.

 

Being stuck in poverty & judging others serves no one and it's exhausting.

 

 

 

Healthy and Passionate Relationships

 

 

Are you at odds with or unable to connect with a romantic partner with the same ideals and goals as you? Are you constantly triggering each other or unable to define comfortable terms to a relationship for fear of being conventional or restrictive?

 

Do you find yourself gravitating to troubled, or complicated partners, and giving more than you really want to?

 

 

Step 3

 

Learn to go slow, get to know a person before becoming involved. Take stock of what you want in a partner (if you want one) and be prepared to define unconventional terms, or to fully expect monogamy and even marriage if that's what you truly want. Don't let someone use your ideals of freedom to trap you in a polyamorous relationship if you don't want one. Don't stifle feelings of jealously because someone “calls you” on possessiveness if you want exclusivity.

 

Conversely, don't get stuck in a relationship with someone who wants monogamy, or anything else, if you don't.

 

You may want a long term relationship, but no joint financial responsibilities, or children but not to live together. Whatever it is, it's ok to make it uniquely yours.

 

 

The Cost of staying stuck

 

Unfulfilling or damaging relationships. Sexual/emotional wounds, including physical manifestations like cysts, vulvadynia and other reproductive issues.

 

Self loathing. A background of disrespect, distrust, discord and lack of confidence in your own judgement.

 

Or worse, for a Lilith archetype – settling.

 

 

 

The joy in life is worth fighting for

 

 

Step 4

 

Do you find it hard to relax and find joy in life? Do you feel guilty when you feel happy and others are suffering? Do you feel driven to work on your personal, or professional, goals all the time? Are you involved in a cause that you can't take a break from for fear the momentum will be lost, or no one else will take on the work? Are you indispensable?

 

Learn to delegate. Learn to let go. If no one else wants to pick up the slack so you can go on a weekend camping trip, go anyway. If you're the only one who can do a media interview, teach someone else. Stop worrying that they might not do it a well as you do. They won't. Let them get the experience to become good at it.

 

Not everyone thinks your issue is the most important one. Not everyone wants to help in the same way. Learn to identify the ones who would help in some way and offer them options that suit them. Forget the ones who aren't into it.

 

Take your dog for a walk, meditate, go to a movie or to hear some live music.

 

The Cost of Staying Stuck in Overdrive

 

 

If there's no joy in life what are you working to save?

 

Being indispensable is not showing good leadership. It's not building tribe and it's going to make you resentful and angry at the wrong people. As is having no fun.

 

Everything in your life will go more smoothly if you allow for some fun and relaxation. Burning out serves no one and no cause will be furthered if you crash and burn.

 

 

 

Life's Work = Income

 

 

Step 5

 

You can't relate to working in most work places. Either you're fighting their policies; the investment plan includes “ethical” oil companies, you hate mornings and waking up to an alarm clock, your colleges think your outlooks are to uptight/PC, or just weird. Maybe your “boss” is threatened by your creativity, or is stealing your best ideas. Sometimes the company just owns them outright.

 

When I worked in main stream radio, I would argue when I was told to tone down a news story for fear of alienating a major sponsor. Yes, that does happen. I complained about all the plastic and paper waste. I can't count how many times I heard, “why don't you just go and work for Greenpeace?” in the end, I did. I put my media skills to good use in direct action and campaign support for ten years.

 

Maybe you get stuck in dead end jobs, or charge less money than you deserve for your freelance goods or services. The Lilith in us has rebellion issues about money that often keep us in lack. We believe greed is one of the problems in the world and we want to earn ours ethically. Consequently, we aren't always good at charging what we need to survive. Especially when it's in service to our community.

 

 

Find a truly suitable workplace, or start one. Keep your creative ideas and put them to work for you, or partner with someone who has a successful business underway. Take contracts and have time between them for a trip or personal project. Don't get stuck. Don't starve, or just get by. Brand yourself. Get free.

 

 

Cost of Staying Stuck in Unfulfilling Work

 

Literal cost is not being paid a living, or fair, wage.

 

Giving your best work to a company that doesn't deserve it, or use it ethically. Not getting to pick how you spend most of your time and being around people all day that you may have nothing in common with. Too much compromise. Ridiculously early mornings.

 

 

Step 6

 

Spiritual Practise/ Affinity vs Appropriation

 

Many women with Lilith tendencies have rejected mainstream (often but not exclusively Christian) religions, or we were never into them the first place. We've had problems with the language of a male God, sin, virgin birth. Perhaps with the idea of a personified God, at all. We aren't “joiners”, so we may not have a spiritual community, or we may be someone people look to for spiritual direction. We are independent thinkers and we resonate with with the spiritual practises of Buddhism or Indigenous cultures. We are passionate creatures and where do we draw the line between affinity and appropriation?

 

Why indeed do we have these attractions in the first place?

 

We all have genetic memory of a time when our people were tribal. It's in our DNA. Most of us have as many as 100s of years between us and a living relative who practised an animist, or nature based, religion or spiritually. We resonate with the teaching at our yoga class, or a smudge or sharing circle. We get invited to a sweat, or a pipe ceremony, and we feel our being is at home.

 

How could we not embrace that? Should we? When does it become appropriation?

 

We will learn to acknowledge the voices of our own ancestors and how to walk honourably beside other cultures, especially the cultures of the Peoples whose land we now live on.

 

Find out where you belong.

 

 

The Cost of Staying Spiritually Stuck

 

Denying ourselves the connection with the oneness of all living things. Being stuck between the religion we've rejected and appropriating the religion of another culture. We can participate, but we will never be pipe carriers or Indigenous spiritual leaders. Until we find our own spiritual path we won't find our true tribe.